I had the most enjoyable conversation with Christine Mason founder of @rosebudwoman this morning to talk about my approach to dating and relationship. I’m so excited for this podcast episode to be released in a couple weeks.
We talked about what the marks of a healthy relationship are and I was reminded how far I’ve come.
I think there are many marks to a healthy relationship. And it’s important to say what may be healthy for one partnership may not be healthy for another.
Today I wanted to revisit my marks and invite you to share your thoughts too. It would be really cool to get a big list goin in the comments and share our thoughts and experience!
Ok I’ll go first:
Realistic: I strive to see my partner realistically. The emoji face with glasses means I strive to see my partner as is. Meaning I evaluate my own projections, assumptions and unreasonable expectations and check them when necessary.
Growth: I do the inner work for me and no one else. He does the inner work for him and no one else.
Adulting: I honor the triggers in me that put me into a child ego state (eg. blaming and pulling to be rescued, feeling overly sorry for myself) and take responsibility for seeing my part and giving myself or asking for what I need.
Solutions: I focus on the present and the possibility of resolution. I give my partner the benefit of the doubt. Together we fix what breaks.
Abundance: Abundance goes far beyond money. I create a full life outside my relationship and don’t expect my relationship to be the only source of filling up in my life. I bring that fullness back to him for us both to enjoy.
Enjoyment: While my partner and I will disagree and differ in opinions we don’t need to change each other to be happy. We can still enjoy and respect each other.
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