1. Esteem & Love Yourself First “I knew when we started this I didn’t see it as long term thing but I remained open to it.” His words after he told me it was over. I felt my cheeks get hot. I knew what that meant. I was feeling shame. I felt my self-esteem shatter and hit the floor. I hated the reflection of myself I was seeing in this break up. Inside I felt like a discarded piece of trash. I felt so low and continued to go lower for several months after.
Months later I realized my lack of self-esteem (my opinion of myself and my abilities) made it really hard for this guy to love me. It’s natural for us to doubt ourselves occasionally but low self-esteem in dating can leave you feeling insecure and emotionally dependent. Make it easy for others to love you by loving yourself first. I’m sure you’ve heard the idea, “How can anyone else love you if you don’t love yourself first?” Tool: Try diving head first into defining your own worth. When you learn to see yourself as good (worthy) you can let go of trying to get love and attention from people and things to define your worth.
Collect daily evidence and build a solid case for your deservingness in love and in life.