Life is a series of present moments. Dating and finding relationships are a series of present moments. Your point of power is in the present moment because there is where you plant the mental and emotional seeds for creating great new experiences in finding love. Now here are two (possibly hard to swallow) truths:
1. Living in the past you block yourself from new experiences (love) by focusing on the regret, anger and the what-ifs of relationships that have ended. 2. Living in the future you block yourself from new experiences by mentally living in worry of what could happen or pleasure of what could be of relationships to come. When you bring presence to your search for love you give yourself a sense of self-control and peace.